Monday, July 10, 2006

For those of you who haven't heard, Jeff suffered brain death today at around 11:30 a.m. at Brackenridge. His blood pressure began dropping in the middle of the night last night. They took Jeff out from under sedation, but couldn't get back any positive results when testing his reflexes and autonomic responses (such as coughing and the like). A brain flow test was administered on Jeff and it was determined that he had no blood flow to the brain- a result which indicated brain death.
Jeff's family, Mandy, and myself thank everyone for their support. Jeff was clearly an amazing person, and the tremendous outpouring of love and support that he and his family have received is a testament to the quality of his character and the degree to which people loved him. He was one of the most vibrant, energetic, fun-loving, and caring people that I've ever known (he would be embarrassed by that last bit of description, but it's absolutely true- Jeff would go to any lengths for a friend in trouble, and I say this out of personal experience).
I have lived in Austin for most of my life, and I have never seen the level of empathy and compassion that this tradgedy has produced within our community. Please keep the Wilsons and Mandy in your hearts, thoughts, and prayers as they struggle through the grief of this event and try to begin the healing process.
On a final note, please, please, please don't drive after you've been drinking. Drinking and driving has killed one of my best friends, and it can be averted for the cost of a cab ride or with a phone call to find a different driver. Don't let your ego become involved when you start drinking. Alcohol impairs judgement, and just because you feel that you can make it home doesn't mean that everyone on the road should have to assume the risk of your questionable decision.
At any rate, that's all for now. I love you, Jeff, and I've loved being your friend and neighbor.

jason

36 comments:

diva said...

thank you, jason.
thank you for being a GOOD FRIEND to jeff and to us all.
we are blessed by you.
love you.

Bryan said...

Terrible, terrible news.

Thank you, Jason, for forwarding information on Jeff during the last week. Your updates have provided a great deal of comfort to a great many people.

If possible, please let us know how Jeff and Mandy's friends and neighbors can provide support and condolensces. I know lots of people in the neighborhood and elsewhere will be interested.

I am very sorry for the loss of your friend and our neighbor.

Bryan Hebert
Western Trails Neighborhood Association

The Gardners said...

Jason,
My heart just sank reading the news. I think each one of us turned to your blog during the past week looking for hope and good news. Mabye this was Jeff's way of holding on until people were able to say their farewells. Or maybe, well who knows. Thank you for your continued strength. Our thoughts and prayers are with you, Jeff, Mandy, and all of their friends and family.

Anonymous said...

Jason,

I am at a loss for words, it does not seem real that it is Jeff gone on. Someone who was so full of energy and life, it is hard to believe it is gone.

I know you have had your hands full, you have done such a fantastic job keeping everyone up to date, and being a shoulder, a big shoulder, for everyone to lean on. You must be flooded with email because I tried to send some notes and they came back because your email was full.

We will of course be thinking of Mandy, her family and Jeff's family, and all of their friends. I will be thinking of you too my friend, I know what great friends y'all are to each other. I'm sure you have been busy trying to handle a huge load, but try to take some time out for yourself. If there is anything we can do, anything, don't hesitate to call.

God's speed to you Jeff on your journey home.

Travis

Brian Smith said...

I don't know Jeff personally, but I am a friend of Sigmund. I have been following this blog since I heard about the accident. It's a very tragic story that has hit home with me. I don't know if its that I'm about same age as Jeff or that lives can change so quuickly, but the whole story saddens me. My thoughts and prayers are with all those that knew Jeff.

Best of luck to you too Jason, sounds like you lost a good friend.

Anonymous said...

Jason,
I'm deeply upset to hear the news and my family and I thank you so very much for your thoughtful updates. Along with the Wilsons I want you to know you are in our prayers too for all you've gone through and will continue to go through. Jeff was honored to have a great friend like you.
Steve Toland and family

Anonymous said...

Thank you, Jason, for keeping us informed about Jeff. I went to high school with him and also spent time with him while he was at Baylor. The Cleburne crew seemed to always stick together. Jeff was a part of that crew. He and his friend Lance Lewis always called me Freagan for some unknown reason and I will always remember that. What a fun guy to hang out with. He kept us all on our toes! Please send his family our deepest sympathy and let them know how much he will be missed.

Reagan (Lucas) Rives

Anonymous said...

Thank you Jason.
We are heartbroken by this news. Our thoughts are with Mandy, her and Jeff's family and friends.
Love,
Lori and Gary

Abby Duckett said...

Please send Jeff's family our love and let them know our prayers are with them. The entire town of Cleburne is sending their love and prayers. Please let us know if there is anything we can do for his family or friends.

Anonymous said...

The world needs more Jeff Wilsons. What a loss for everyone, especially those close to him. I pray he is now in the loving presence of the Father.
Grace and peace to you Jeff.

And I hope you know how much your friendship meant to Jeff, Jason. It was obvious to even those who didn't know you well. May you find peace and understanding in all this, somehow, someway.
I wish I had a friend who loves me the way you love Jeff and Mandi.

Man, we'll miss that guy.

Peek

Anonymous said...

Jason, thank you for keeping us informed during this past week. My thoughts go out to you, Mandy and his family. It sounds like they have a wonderful friend in you.

Jeff and I went to high school together and were roommates for a bit. He always lived life to the fullest, and you couldn't help but do the same when you were with him. I have SO MANY fun and happy memories because of Jeff. He will be missed.

Emily (Hatcher) Mirkin

Anonymous said...

damn.

please let us know if there is anything that we could give to or send to. Sending flowers just doesn't feel right...although, maybe it would be perfect. It's been years since I have seen him.

Please kiss his family for those of us who are far away and let them know that we are grateful for the experience of knowing him.

-k

Anonymous said...

Jason,

Words cannot express my thanks for your friendship to Jeff. You have been a source of comfort to Mandy and the rest of the family throughout this painful time Jeff was a wonderful person who lived life to the fullest. I will miss him dearly. To everyone else who reads this blog,...thanks for your prayers from the entire Wilson family.

Jeff, you will be missed!

Uncle Barry

john howard said...

Jason,

Thanks again for keeping all of us informed. Myself and several others who are no longer at the courthouse were checking your page to read details of this tragedy. This thing just put all of us in shock.
The tally of the victims in this is really endless. That woman's decision, made when she still had the chance to change her mind, left many victims. Many of us have made that wrong decision and have been lucky to not have harmed anyone. Some of us woke up years ago and no longer take that risk. What perplexes me is that she worked in a courthouse and had to have seen the endless tragedies that drunk driving causes. Those who work around that loss every day should be especially aware of the costs. She should have been.

Her victims include everyone who ever met Jeff, because he was such a nice person. Even those of us who felt themselves in a different generation appreciated that about him. He was a man who didn't seem to have a mean bone.

I also count among her victims those who did not know Jeff, but saw in him a memory of someone they too once knew and lost in such a way.

I am so sorry for you, Jeff's wife and for Jeff's entire extended family. You are a wonderful guy and he was lucky to have you for a friend.

John Howard

JMD said...

I am so sorry for your loss, his family's loss, his wife's loss. Please know that you and they are in my thoughts.

Charlie said...

We are heartbroken.

Charlie & Julia

Anonymous said...

My name is Joaquin Lopez, Jeff and Mandy's mechanic for several years now. Such is the extent of Jeff's kindness that he touched everyone he met. I have never met a more genuinly nice and great person. He had a great outlook on life and a bright future ahead of him. My sincerest condolences to his wife Mandy and I wish a speedy recovery to the Bloom family as well.

Anonymous said...

Dear Jason, Thank you for keeping us updated with information regarding Jeff.

Around 11:30 a.m. today I lit a candle for Jeff at San Jose Catholic Church and added him to their prayer list. After Alexandra called and told me he was dead I checked the time based on a call from a friend. I hope my prayers for Jeff went with him, and together with the prayers of all his friends and family, gave him the peace he deserved.

I am so sorry for the pain that you are experiencing. If there is anything Jim and I can do please call.

Thank you for your kind comments on Anderson's death. I am forwarding them to his wife Leslie and son Jimmy.

Love, Deirdre

Anonymous said...

Jason,
I saw you today walk down the hallway. I wanted so much to give you a hug but I believe at that moment you were on your way out to the hospital. When I see you be ready :)
Know that YOU, JEFF, MANDY, his FAMILY and FRIENDS have and will be in my prayers.

Vicki Padilla

Jennifer Belriner said...

Jason...sometimes there are just not the right words to say. Please know that you will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time. I can tell Jeff touched the lives of so many. Jennifer Berliner

Anonymous said...

Jason,

I have been follwing your updates on Jeff all week. I was stunned when I first heard the news. My prayers go out to you and his wife and family as I know how close you all were. I was very shocked today as I heard the news and learned that Jeff passed. Ill always remember his smile. He was so LUCKY to have you as his best friend.

-Sylvia Salinas-Reynolds

Anonymous said...

Jason,

I am so sorry to hear about Jeff's passing. Jeff was always so upbeat and genuine...he will always be remembered. We're thinking about you in Court 4. Please let us know if there is anything we can do.

- Laura Garcia

Anonymous said...

Ohhhhh.....I am so sad for him and his family and friends.From just reading his blogs (I don't know anyone involved in any of this) I could tell that he was a very nice young man. A true gentleman who will be missed greatly. Not fair not fair. I will keep you all in my poor prayers.

Anonymous said...

Thank you, Jason, for your tireless updates over the past week.

Although Jeff and I were not in touch, it does not seem real to me that he could be gone. Jeff was truly one-of-a-kind. We were very close friends for a number of years. Reading these posts has reminded me of what a loyal friend he was to me. I can see that he was that kind of friend to many people. It is wonderful to see how many lives he touched. I wish I could tell him thanks for all of the memories I have of those teenage years. I have never laughed harder than I did when we were friends.

He was also with me the day that my mother died when I was 14. He really helped me cope during that time. I wish that I could be with his family now--just to be there with them, like he was for me. I am praying so hard for Mandy, Don and Jajuan, Diana and Ryan, and for the many friends he has left behind.

Ashley Marshall Everett

Anonymous said...

I am sick about this story and this tragic end to a life of a person that that I know I would have been great friends with had I ever had the chance to meet Jeff. I have been following this story and your blogs closely Jason and thinking about Jeff constantly, although I don't personally know any of you. Really a statement to the life force of such a person who can move the emotions of so many around him. I am truly so sorry for our loss. Rock on Jeff!

Melendy said...

Thank you, Jason, for all the information you have given. What a load for you to have carried. What a terrible loss, but there is a little bit of comfort in knowing that Jeff lived the way that he did and enjoyed every milisecond of life.

Georgette said...

Thank you Jason, for being our link to Jeff's battle for life. Mandy, Jeff's family, and the Blooms are in my prayers.

Anonymous said...

There are some people that come into your life that forever leave an imprint on your heart - Jeff is that kind of person.

In the short time that I was honored to call him my friend, I was constantly amazed by his energy, kindness, and love for life.

Jason, please know that you are constantly in my thoughts and prayers

Love always,
Chan

CB said...

I did not know Jeff personally, only through his blog, which I found through your blog.

The word tragic doesn't seem to cover it. My thoughts and prayers are with you, his family and all those that knew him.

Anonymous said...

I have a friend who I will always admire as one of the sweetest, smartest, funniest, kindest, most levelheaded person I've ever met. She was there for me and made me laugh in some really tough times. That person is Mandy Wilson. Mandy was Jeff's wife, and I don't know if I will ever be able to call her the other w- word.... Mandy and Jeff had one of those relationships that everyone wishes they could find. They loved each other as husband and wife, but were at the core very very best friends. There was no one either of them would rather hang out with. Even in an argument, they treated each other with such respect, there was always such joy between the two of them.

Mandy and I worked together at the State Bar, and heard lots of bad things about lawyers, so I'm not at all naive when I say this. Lawyer jokes are easy, and commonplace and everyone finds the humor. But when I think of lawyers, I think of people like Jeff, who respected his clients, did the best he could for them even in the worst of circumstances and who was one of the most decent human beings I've ever met. I also think of Jason, who has written these updates when his heart is breaking, thinking of all of Jeff's friends and family more than his own pain. I think of Joe Turner, who rushed to the emergency room when he heard the news, and sat all night with Jeff's family and shielded their privacy at such a difficult time. I think of my friend Jennifer, who met Jeff and Mandy only a few times, but was constantly concerned for their wellbeing and looking for ways to help. These people are lawyers. Maybe we will always think lawyer jokes are funny, but I am also reminded that the world is a much finer place because of these lawyers, and today it is a little less fine because one of the best was taken much too soon.

Jason, thanks so much for your blog.
Donna Rene

Anonymous said...

Jason, thank you so much for keeping Jeff’s family and friends updated. It's really been a useful source.

Jeff was a good friend of my sister, Emily. I always had a wonderful time hanging out with him. Whether it was going to concerts, tubing, or just hanging out, he always made it more fun. I am glad to have so many enjoyable memories of an awesome person and good friend. He will truly be missed.

Tiffni (Hatcher) Menendez

JZ said...

Jason, thanks so much for keeping everyone informed, and my condolences to you, Mandy, Sig and Kim, and all the families involved. I went to college with Sig and was fortunate enough meet and catch some shows with Jeff in 2001. I was also recently in Austin with Tim O. and spent an afternoon with Jeff, having no idea it would be the last. What a great guy, and what a tragedy for the world to lose someone so wonderful so young.

Love to all,
Jenn Z.

Anonymous said...

a horrible tragedy has taken away a beatiful marriage. I grew up with Mandy and through collage we all shared a house:she is the last woman in the world that should ever have to feel sorro or pain!And Jeff sounds like an awsome individual who did not deserve this I will be praying for all of the grieving families and friends.

Patrick Jelinek

Amber Vazquez Bode said...

Jason, Mandy and the Wilson family,

Thank you so much for your updates on Jeff's condition during such a painful time. I have only known Jeff a short while from the courthouse, but he was always such a sweet and thoughtful person in all his interaction with me. I really liked his approach to life and our profession. There are not enough people like Jeff in the world, he will be missed. My prayers are with you.

Amber Vazquez Bode

kristen said...

Hi, Jason. We haven't met yet - I'm Jamie's brother's girlfriend, Kristen. I've been keeping up with everything you and Ryan have written about Jeff, and even though I never had the chance to meet him, I can tell what a wonderful person he was by the incredible love and support you and others in his circle of friends and family have shown during this tragedy, and the stories you have shared about him. He was so lucky to have you as a friend. Thank you for keeping all of us updated - your postings have given comfort and support to so many of us. Please know that you and the rest of Jeff's community are in my thoughts.

Cobra Kai Dojo said...

"And one day we will die
And our ashes will fly from the aeroplane over the sea
But for now we are young
Let us lay in the sun
And count every beautiful thing we can see
Love to be
In the arms of all I'm keeping here with me" -Neutral Milk Hotel

I had the chance to finally meet Jeff and Mandy a few weeks ago, when Steans and Reed and I BBQ-ed in their backyard...didn't realize it would be the last time. I have about 20 CDs he burned for me over the course of this year (including the Neutral Milk Hotel disc and the new Band Of Horses). It makes the sad music even sadder. I still have a stack of CDs on my desk I was going to send him.

This whole turn of events is sickening. We'll miss you, Crackbass.
Good night, sweet prince, And flights of angels sing thee to thy rest....
Dr.P